Seven Facts You Should Never Share on a First Date

By: eHarmony

It’s your big night, your hot date. You’re likely to be nervous, and for some, this means nonstop chattering. What issues should you guard against mentioning during your time together? We are counting them down.

7: “Financially, I’m doing great/awful.”
Many people draw conclusions about others based on their income, investments, family wealth (or poverty), and so on. You want to be evaluated on who you are—your personality, beliefs, ambitions—not your income-generating potential. This goes for in-depth conversation that may conspicuously point out your wealth. (“I do like to summer at my home in Saint-Tropez.”)

6: “My last relationship was a disaster
Less history equals more mystery, or something to that effect. There is no need to go in depth about how you were wronged or who you may have wronged (oops!) during a first date. Try being a good listener and finding out all about your date, rather than filling the hour with romantic horror stories. It’s often tempting to fall into stories of horrible dates, as we all have them, but if you’re not careful one of those stories may say more about you than your bad date partner.

5: “I did want to tell you a dark secret ...”
This may seem obvious, but you cannot trust someone you just met with really personal information. Give them time to prove their trustworthiness, and keep it light on that first encounter. There is no “full disclosure” rule in effect on a first date. You have the right to withhold almost every unflattering fact until it is established that you like each other and want to pursue things.

4: “I’m in recovery.”
Many of us have them and deal with them and are proud of overcoming personal demons—but it is best to wait a bit before revealing this particular piece of sensitive information. Again, keeping it fun and light on a first date is highly recommended! Of course, it may come up, and that’s fine. (“Oh, do you not want any wine with dinner?”) Just don’t feel that you have a responsibility to share this detail.

3: “My family is crazy!”
So your mom left your dad for his best friend, or you found out five years ago about a long lost sibling. Most of us have some sort of familial skeletons in the closet, but it isn’t fair to your family to reveal this to someone you just met. Oversharing can equal sudden dating death!

2: Liar, Liar
Embellishing the story of your life is never a good idea. Some people feel that they are not exciting and experience pressure to exaggerate their life. Be honest and truthful about who you are, you want your date to fall in love with you as you really are. Not some amped-up version.

1: “Will you marry me?”
Yes, it happens. Should it? Never! Even if you feel an amazing connection or intense infatuation—keep your feet on the ground. Let’s add to that any kind of “Oh my God, you’re so perfect for me!” talk. It places additional pressure on the situation and can take a nice, pleasant first date and make it very creepy very quickl

Top 10 Reason to Why Some Men Have a Tendency to Cheat on Women & Can’t Stay 100% Devoted

Top 10 Reason to Why Some Men Have a Tendency to Cheat on Women & Can’t Stay 100% Devoted

 

By: Aqua Blutopia NYC

Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top ten reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.

So why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we supposed to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Apparently not always.

Here are the top ten reasons why men cheat:

1. Because they had the option.
The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.

2. It boosts their ego.
Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.

3. You grow apart.
Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or baseball. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.

4. You argue a lot.
Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something?

5. They have fallen out of love.
Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.

6. Your sex life stinks.
If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.

7. To get revenge.
A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old-fashioned sex?

8. it’s new, different and exciting.
Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.

9. To see if they can get away with it.
If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.

10. Because you have allowed it in the past.
If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.

Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest. After all, Karma can be a bitch.

HOW TO SHARE YOUR FANTASIES WITH YOUR PARTNER

By: Aqua Blutopia

One of the most enjoyable parts of having a relationship is being able to fulfill your romantic fantasies. Regardless if you are in a relationship or not, we all have fantasies that we wish one day can play out. A romantic fantasy is something important to you that are missing in your love life. It's what you think about in your quiet time. If only you had it, your life would be more complete.

In this article, you will learn how your romantic fantasies can come true by learning how to make them happen. All dreams need work to become realities. Whether you are in a relationship or not, you can still formulate your plan of action to make your romantic dreams come true.

Romantic fantasies are different for everyone. Each fantasy takes on a life of its own with a unique feeling, tone, and theme. Some people have simple fantasies; other people's fantasies are very detailed. One thing that is common with all romantic fantasies is the element of desiring something that you don't already have in your life and that can only come through a romantic partner.

Sharing Your Fantasy:   Many times, both partners in a relationship have fantasies that they would like to share with their partners, but they don't reveal them. Sharing a fantasy can make you vulnerable. Fantasies also can evoke strong emotions. For these reasons, fantasies are usually kept private. To present your secret thoughts to someone can take courage.

One of the biggest barriers to sharing a fantasy with your partner is erroneous assumptions. No one can read another person's mind. Yet it's easy to come up with many reasons why you think your partner would not want to live out a fantasy with you.

Telling Your Partner What You Want :
How do you tell your partner about your romantic fantasies? It's easy. All you have to do is be clear about what you want and then tell your partner. If you have someone who loves you, that person may be more eager to make you happy than you think.

The first step to telling your partner about your romantic fantasy is to think about what you want. Then write the fantasy down in one sentence. Have your partner write his or her fantasy down, too.

TIPS ON HOW TO TURN UP THE SEXY SULTRY OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN JUST MOMENTS

by: Aqua Blutopia

 

Whether you've got a free hour and a hot partner to share it with or just a precious few moments to yourself, it's a snap to unleash your inner vixen with these steamy to-do's. Turn up the sultry from your head (after all, the brain is the ultimate sex organ) to your pedicured toes, with a few choice stops in between.

Here are a few Tips on How to Turn up the sexy sultry of your relationship in just a few seconds/ minutes.  Lets GO!!:

If you have 10 seconds to unleash your inner vixen and turn on the sexy sultry between you and your partner, this is what you can do!
Grab him by the belt and sneak a peek at his package.
Alone? Sneak a peek at yourself!
Spray a light spritz of your signature scent in his caror on his pillow.
Ditch the panty hose.
Give him a friendly — or feisty! — slap on the behind.
Put on your sexy jeans.
Kick off the sneakers and strap on the stilettos.
Slip your hand into your guy's back pocket.
Give him bedroom eyes and lick your lips.
Hike up your skirt an inch.

30 seconds:
Send him a sweet or seductive text message.
Clench your girl muscles.
Spray a dollop of whipped cream on your chest and ask your man to lick it off.
Whisper something — anything — to him in French.
Pull him in for a long, seductive kiss.
Make out in the elevator.
Kiss him awake in the a.m.
Take off his belt, slowly.

1 minute:
Jump into the shower with him for a quick, hot make-out session.
Change out of your cotton panties into a lacy thong.
Get confident with perfect posture: Push your shoulders back and stand up straight.
Whisper in his ear a play-by-play of exactly what it is you plan to do to him tonight.
Loosen up — extend your arms high, bend over, try a split — within his view, of course.
Tell him about your hot dream.
Rest your hand on his inner thigh under the table.

How to Wear Clothes that Compliments Your Body Type and Figure

By: Aqua Blutopia

Emma Riley Sutton

Emma Riley Sutton has more than 25 years of writing experience, contributing to many nationally recognized magazines and copy writing for corporations and non-profit organizations. She has many years of experience as a professional wedding/event coordinator, interior decorator/home stager and career counselor/advocate. She has two degrees in English and public relatiAll women are beautiful not just those picture-perfect models, actresses and singers on the cover magazines. One of the reasons all women are beautiful is because they all come in different shapes and sizes. Not one woman is exactly like another; each woman is unique and special. Despite this, most women want to look their best. One way to do this is dress in a manner that will make your specific shape and size look great. Follow these guidelines any will you be able to dress to flatter your body type. Once you know how to do it, dressing to compliment your body type is easy. All it takes are a few easy tips to follow.

Follow Tips:

1.  Apple Shaped

1)    Buy blouses that fit you at your bust. Make sure they don’t cling to your body. Wrap-around tops work well for your shape. Choose jackets that have long lapels.

2)    Avoid empire-waist tops and turtlenecks. V-neck, boat and collared tops usually work best. Experiment with light and bright colors for you shirts and blouses.

 

 

3)    Wear darker colored pants and skirts. To hide excessive weight in your middle, wear higher waistlines. Purchase pants that wide-legged.

 

2.  Pear Shaped

4)    You want to emphasize your upper half to balance out your lower half. Flared or boot cut pants (not overly so, however) in a solid or subtle pattern, preferable neutrals, work well, as do A-line skirts that flare away from your body. Just above the knee works well. Avoid pants that are too low cut and bottoms that are tight.

 

5)    Wear black tops and blouses that will make you look slimmer. Try sleeveless t-shirts and tops. Experiment with different looks that brings the eye upward.

 

6)      Up top, you want something with some shape to it--a structured jacket, a well-defined-top (especially a moderate V-neck, which will draw attention up) or a fun. The goal is to draw attention up, towards your face.

Draw the eyes up by wearing tops with patterns and color. Wide necklines will have the same effect. Dresses and skirts should fall at your knee. Avoid anything that is clingy. Add a great necklace to draw attention away from the bottom half of your body as well

7)      Heels look better than flats on almost any occasion, but if you must do a flat, find one with a pointed toe. This will elongate the leg line.

 

8)   Low-rise pants are a great choice for the woman who is pear shaped. Avoid pants with side pockets; they will only emphasis your hips. Wide or boot cut pants will draw the eye away from your hips.

 

3.  Plus-Size

9)    Wear clothes that fit. Oversized clothes only add bulk and make you look larger. Look for tops and blouses that have details at the neckline to bring the eye to your face.

 

10)  Patterns are fine as long as they match your body size. Try vertical stripes that are proportionate to your body size to make the eye look up and down instead of side to side.

 

11)  Choose outfits that are monotone. All clothing should have some stretch to it. Find the smallest part of your waist and accentuate this area with a belt.

 

4.  Tall

12)    A skirt just below the knee will balance out a taller person.

 

13)    If you are self-conscious about being tall, avoid heels. Wear flats, or shoes with kitten heels, which give the effect of wearing a heel without adding much height.

 

14)    A higher neck (but not turtleneck) will also help balance out a taller figure. Think crewneck or cowl neck shirts.

 

15)    Fitted clothes like structured shirts and jackets, and straight-legged pants will help balance out a tall figure.

 

16)    Horizontal or diagonal patterns on clothes will draw attention across the body, rather than up and down the way vertical stripes do.

 

5.  Boyish Figure/ Rectangler Shape

17)  Buy baby doll blouses and dresses with ruffles and details around your bust. Bring attention to your shoulders, neck and face by wearing spaghetti straps and tank tops.

 

 

18)  Shop for clothing that will define your waist. Experiment with different types of belts that will bring attention to your curves. Lots of color, textures and patterns look great on you.

19)  Look for clothing that will make you look taller; avoid cropped tops and t-shirts. Skirts look great on women with boyish figures. Avoid boot cut pants and jeans; wear straight leg pants instead.

 

6.  Short

20)    Obviously an easy fix is heels--the higher they are, the taller you look. Pointy toes will also help lengthen the leg line.

 

21)    Wear vertical stripes. Not only are they slimming, but they tend to lengthen the body. Avoid any horizontal patterns. You want to draw the eye up and down, not across.

 

22)    Avoid skirts below the knee. Just above the knee is most flattering for short figures.

23)    Same with dresses--pick ones that end just above the knee.

 

24)    A low or moderate V-neck will elongate the neck and torso, making you appear taller.

 

7) Top Heavy

25)    Essentially, you want to balance your upper and lower body. If you are top heavy, you want to create more volume on the bottom and minimize the volume up top. The first step for top heavy people is to get a good bra--make sure it lifts and keeps everything in place.

 

26)    A darker silhouette on top will minimize a larger chest. Think dark colors or subtle patterns.

 

27)    A longer, tunic-style top will lengthen the upper body, slimming it.

 

Tips For Every Body Type:

·         Bright colors or patterns draw attention to an area. Use these on areas you are trying to play up.

·         Darker colors, subtle patterns and neutrals (other than white) play down an area. Use these on "problem" areas. Also, avoid tight clothes on problem areas.

·         A structured jacket is a great addition to nearly any outfit and looks great on all body types.

·         Heels and pointed toes will make your legs look longer and slimmer.

·         Balance--if one article is tight, make the other loose, or vice versa. Balance a short skirt with a turtleneck. A super-low cut shirt can be balanced out with a pair of wide leg pants.

·         Vertical stripes are always taller/more slimming, while horizontal stripes will give you volume.

·         Walking in heels is better exercise than walking in flats, but don't get too high of a heel or you'll have back and foot pain.