Thursday, January 26, 2012

How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Find Love

How to attract Love using the Law of Attraction
People who have heard about the Law of Attraction and want to learn how to use it to manifest their dreams often have specific goals in mind i.e. they want more money, a better job or a nice house. One of the most common questions I see asked online is ‘how can I use the law of attraction to attract love?' or ‘ is it possible to manifest love?' The answer to these questions is pretty simple. The law of attraction will work for whatever you want to manifest as long as you follow the formula.
So what is the formula? Ask - Believe - Release - Receive.
But before we get to the formula and attracting love into your life there is some groundwork that needs to be done first. As with all manifestations you first need to be clear before you begin. Getting clear simply means that your mind is free from excess baggage from other relationships, making sure that there are no negative emotions like fear or self-doubt stopping you from attracting the man/woman of your dreams. Here are some tips to help you get clear.
Check on your self-love level.
Spend some time in reflection to discover your feelings about yourself, decide if you truly love yourself, if you think highly of yourself or if you think you are worthy or loving.
Make note of your self-love level
Take a piece of paper and write down all the good things about yourself, make note of how kind and caring you are, how smart you are, what nice teeth you have, what great legs you have, how compassionate you are, how passionate you are, what a great listener you are, what a great husband/wife you would make, how deserving you are of love, how good you are at gardening, plumbing, writing, speaking... just whatever you can think of that is good about yourself write it down. Note though that the manifestation process works much faster if you truly believe what you are writing down about yourself.
Believe you are ready
Carry this piece of paper around with you for as long as it takes for you to truly believe that you are all the things you said you are. Convince yourself that you are confident, worthy and ready for love. This process is basically preparing you for receiving love and it is very important because if you do not love yourself you will not be able to attract love. The first love affair you must have is with yourself.
After the clearing process you will be ready to place your order for love with the universe. To do this you must be absolutely sure about the kind of relationship/person you want to attract. If you are unclear about this you will send mixed messages to the universe and you will attract a mixed bag of candidates. Remember the law of attraction states that like attracts like, whatever thoughts you put out there will return to you.
ASK
Make a note of your desires
Take another piece of paper and this time write down a full description of the type of person you want to attract, be as precise and clear as possible. Make your descriptions positive; do not allow any negatives on your list. For instance do not write ‘I do not want my partner to be abusive' instead write ‘my ideal partner is kind and supportive'. Put down every little detail that you want in the person you intend to attract, the clearer you are about your intention the easier it will be for the universe to deliver what you want.
Forget what you do not want
Often when people are asked what they want, they immediately recite a great long list of things that they do not want. People are often extremely clear about what they do not want and spend a great deal of time lamenting the fact. This is why they continuously fall into the same types of relationships, they are getting what they are focusing on and they are focusing on what they do not want. Therefore if you want to successfully manifest your ideal partner you need to forget what you do not want, and channel your energies into what you DO want.
BELIEVE
This is often the most challenging part, but if you have gone through the clearing process and you truly believe that you are worthy and ready for love it will happen very quickly. At this stage it is also very important to keep you vibration level high. In other words stay focused and positive for a long as you can. If at any time you find negative thoughts invading your mind, change your thinking immediately to something positive, try to keep your mood light and happy, remain focused and think only of how great it will be when you meet your ideal partner.
Act as if
Believe you have already met the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with and act as if they are with you, by this I mean, visualize it, feel the emotions of it, allow yourself to dream about how you will feel when it happens. The universe is a feeling one and your vibrations will be picked up very quickly if you focus your energy on positive emotions.
RELEASE
Set it and forget it
I have nicknamed the releasing process as ‘set it and forget it' because that is exactly what you need to do. You have already gone through the clearing process, so you know exactly what you want, you have asked for desire and you have felt the feelings of having your desire in your possession, so you have ‘set it', now its time to ‘forget it'. If you go into a store and order a bed you will not go back to the store the next day and order the same bed again just in case. So it is with the universe, you must now let go and let the universe bring, that which is unseen into the seen realm.
Do not check up on the universe to make sure it has received your order, that will tell the universe that you do not believe and these thoughts will impede the attraction process. Do not spend time wandering when your desire will manifest and how it will manifest as these are signals of lack of belief. Relax, stay positive and allow the universe to bring your desire to you in the manner in which it sees fit. Do this for as long as it takes to manifest your desire.
RECEIVE
Unexpected arrivals
When you have mastered all of the above you will be open to receiving that which you desire, it will often begin with small hints, you may be used to doing your grocery shopping at a particular store and then for some reason you will get a hint or a nudge from the universe to go to another store, do not fight the hint go with it, most likely the reason will be revealed soon after. Being open to receiving is equally as important as all of the other steps I have mentioned so far. If you are not willing to listen to your higher self, the universe, God, Allah, Buddha... whatever you call the Supreme Being, you will miss what is being offered to you.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

How to deal with your most important relationships and boost your self growth

How do we deal with our most important relationships and boost our self growth?
We have many different relationships in our lives; they all provide us with a variety of experiences. The importance of the different relationships varies with the value it has in our lives. The relationships referred to are those with family and friends, work colleagues, peer group and the general public. There are no hard and fast rules as to how much value we place on each of the relationship and will vary depending on the individuals concerned and how the relationship has developed overtime. However, regardless of the state of each of these relationship the most important one is the one with yourself. That is the one that governs all other relationships, how you interact with them and directly affects your personal growth and self improvement.

Everyday of your life you communicate with yourself, sending messages, thoughts and information; how you deal with those communications is a measure of how much value you place on yourself. This is proportional to your self esteem and confidence. If you continually send yourself derogatory messages where you are 'beating yourself up' your self esteem and confidence will take the same battering. This will result in low self esteem and confidence. You may well receive similar messages from your other relationships, however they will be low in number compared with those you send to yourself. Meaning the messages you receive from yourself will have a greater impact on your life.

If you continually sending yourself negative messages this will have a detrimental effect on your lifestyle keeping you low on energy and drive. The negative messages being referred to doesn't just mean your self talk it also includes your devaluing of the compliments and other praise you receive. This behaviour will suffocate the positive messages and communications from all other sources. If feel you are short of positive messages from others then the most favoured action is to provide them yourself; you are the best source of positive comments.

Spend less time on your faults and take anything you call a failure as a positive learning experience; then concentrate on your positive features and play them up. Treat yourself to a special reward when you achieve your goal; don't undermine your achievements. You've work hard to accomplish them.

It is possible to learn how to be positive but only if you choose to learn and decide that's how you want to be. Your self growth will benefit from any personal development you decide to undertake. If you are unsure how to go about achieving a positive state of mind start by recording your achievements and successes in a journal diary or blog diary. This will provide you with an opportunity for review and add value to your personal development plan.

Top 10 Reasons for Staying in an Unhappy Marriage

Staying in unhappy Marriages
 
There are several couples who stay in their marriages even if they are not happy because of several reasons. Three years back a billboard proclaiming "Life's short. Get a divorce" by a Chicago Divorce Lawyers Firm caused enough of an uproar and criticism from all over. But the legal firm made no apologies saying the ad isn't for everyone, but instead targets couples looking for a way out of a bad marital situation. Honestly, I see nothing wrong in people opting out of an unhappy marriage when there is no hope of salvaging the relationship. I believe that marriages are forever. At the same time I think once a relationship is broken no amount of mending can make it the same again.
People’s outlook on Divorce is changing these days. One of my friends who recently got divorced even threw a Divorce Party. I have personally witnessed some of my friends who were divorced from their miserable first marriages find a very contented and happy second marriage. I also was surprised to see Divorce greeting cards a few months ago when I was looking for a suitable online greeting card for one of my friend’s marriage. Here are ten Reasons why people stay glued to their unhappy marriages.
1) For Kids: Children are the worst sufferers when it comes to divorces. Many parents just stay in their unhappy marriages as they love their kids and would not want to cause any harm to them.
2) Money and Perks: Some Woman tends to stay in their marriages because of the comforts and perks they get in the husbands house. The same applies for a man who survives mostly on his wife’s income.
3) Low Self Esteem: Some has low self esteem, doesn't know his/her worth and doesn't realize he/she can do better. Many even lose hope of ever being happy.
4) Do not want to be like the Parents : Several people try to make their unhappy marriage work because they do not want to be like their Parents who have a history of Divorces and have personally suffered the consequences of their actions.
5) Society and Religion: People getting divorced are looked down by the society and some religions. So many pretend that they have a happy marriage even if they are suffering.
6) Guilt : Those who have opted for love marriages normally do not have the support of their parents when things turn sour as they themselves are blame for their own plight and are ashamed of their bad choice. So many of them try to make their relationship work or stay in their unhappy relationships to prove to themselves and their parents that their choice was not wrong and that they are happy with their choices.
7) Loneliness: Many people stay in their unhappy marriages as they are lonely and have no parents or friends to turn to and find security in their marriage even though they are not happy.
8) Property : Some people stay together as they have accumulate wealth together like a house or business or even a pet dog which both are attached to and would not want to give them up for any reason.
9) Freedom to live independent lives: Some couples come to an agreement or compromise on both living life the way they wanted like the husband can spend time with his girlfriend and the wife can spend time with her boyfriend but stay together under the same roof and remaining a happy couple to the outside World.
10) Been forced to stay together: Sometimes couples are forced to stay together because of society pressures and pressures of parents or relatives who are worried about their reputation than two unhappy people.
Whatever the reasons, is it worth staying in an unhappy marriage? Personally I have witnessed many unhappy relationships and people are trying to make it work. I can't imagine them of living a miserable life for so many years trying to make it work. Why do people try so hard to make a failing relationship work when all the love is lost? Why not just leave and find the right person or try living a better life? After all, Life is too short to spend being miserable and it is better to accept it and move on.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Top 5 Signs It's Time To Quit Your Job ASAP

Top 5 Signs It's Time To Quit Your Job ASAP

Pack your bags and move on?
We've all been there - well, most of us at least. You can't stop fantasizing about quitting your job but aren't quite sure if you should really bite the bullet and go for it. Whether it's out of fear or for some other reason, logic often tells you to just suck it up and stay where you are even if that means you're constantly miserable. Damn that logic!
There are many reasons why you might find yourself trying to decide whether or not to quit your job. While the decision is ultimately up to you, obviously the more reasons you have working for you, the more it makes sense to yes, go ahead and quit. And while you should certainly try to be logical about it if you can be, sometimes the best decisions are simply made from the heart.
Below are 5 signs that it's time to quit your job. Remember that life is short and if it seems like many of these were written for you, it might be well time for you to pack your bags and move on.

1. You Dread Going to Work

Unfortunately, this is a pretty common occurrence and one of the top reasons why people quit their jobs. Sure, perhaps it's unreasonable to expect to wake up clapping your hands and with a skip in your step on the way out the door every morning. Let's face it, it's normal to want to stay in bed or spend the day watching TV in your PJs sometimes - the keyword here being sometimes. If you're constantly as in almost everyday lacking motivation to get to your workplace, is this really how you want to live? My guess is no. Everyone dreams of well.. their dream job.
However, before you blame not wanting to go to work on your actual job, consider other explanations first. Are you getting enough sleep? No one wants to go to work on only a few hours of sleep and if that's all you get on a regular basis, see if adding some more zzzzz's can improve your motivation. It's also possible that you're depressed; I have been there before. Depression makes it hard to want to do anything, much less go to work. In this case, quitting your job may not be the answer although it could be just what you need to get out of your rut.

2. You Can't Stand Your Co-workers

Depending on how many people you work with, chances are you're just not going to like all of them and not all of them will like you either. This is normal.
Sometimes though, you are faced with so many difficult coworkers, that it becomes overwhelming to the point where you want to quit your job. In a different article, I have identified 4 Different types of co-workers and how to deal with them. If you find though, that you are indeed overwhelmed with too many bad coworkers and you can't find a way to improve your situation, quitting your job may be your only option for relief.
Keep in mind though that in your next job, you will most likely again be up against at least one coworker you can't stand. However, while this may be the case, it could still be a happier work environment than the one you're in now. It might be a risk you'll just have to take if you want to find out for yourself.

3. You are Underpaid

They say that money isn't everything but it's hard to really embrace that when you know you could be making more money elsewhere doing the same job you're doing now (or perhaps a different one).
The first thing you could do is try asking your boss for a raise because sometimes if you don't ask for it, you just don't get it. If you're a valuable employee as I'm sure you are, your boss may side with you and bump your salary in order not to lose you. Then again, he or she may flat out reject you but it's worth a try.
If you can't get a raise, you'll have to decide just how important money is to you. If you're more or less happy with everything about your job except for the money part, then you might decide that your happiness at work is more important than the money and that it's worth your sticking around. If you're just a little bit underpaid, you can probably easily justify this to yourself for the sake of your happiness. However, if you're grossly underpaid, this in itself may make you unhappy, lead to frustration, and it's a perfectly valid reason to want to quit your job.
Hey, if you're worth it, you're worth it!

4. You are Experiencing Way Too Much Stress

Most jobs come with a certain amount of stress and that's just the way it is. Infact, a certain amount of stress in the workplace is actually a good thing because it can often be used as the pressure many of us need to get things done. Also, a reasonable amount of stress may indicate that your job provides you with challenges (and a lack of challenge on the job can itself lead to stress - see below).
However, sometimes stress at the workplace can get out of control for what seems like neverending periods of time. If you've tried to manage your stress but can't, perhaps you have come to the conclusion that your job is just too stressful for whatever reason and it may well be in your best interests to quit your job. Too much stress wrecks havoc on your health both physically and mentally and no job is worth your health (some people would disagree!).
Again, remember that your new job will come with a certain amount of stress as well because it's unavoidable but hopefully it's a much more manageable kind that you can live with.
Examples of stressors: shift work, long commute times, long work hours, difficult boss, etc.

5. You are Bored

As I said, lack of challenge on the job can lead to boredom and stress. While there are some people who are happy to have no room for advancement at work and to do the same thing everyday, day in and day out for the rest of their lives, most people are not like this.
It could be that you have come to the end of your line at work and there is no more room for you to grow. If this is not okay with you, your only option may be to seek out new challenges in a new job which of course means quitting the one you're in now.
Even if your job is reasonably challenging, it could be that you're bored with your job anyway. Perhaps you do something you've never been interested in but were doing it because of the money or because it's what was expected of you. Move on to something you enjoy!

Saturday, January 7, 2012

haters maybe your enemies but in reality, they are people that wish they can be you.


Please leave your opinion in reference to this statement/blog:
"There are haters around us in many forms. Sometimes we are able to identify them but sometimes we are not. But if we develop the mentality that haters are in fact our admirers, it would cause no harm. ‘Hating is the sincerest form of flattery “says a proverb. There are various reasons to hate a person and at times, haters do not have a reason at all to hate others. They do it just for the sake of hating others. But hating a certain name only gives them fame. Whether a person loves you or hates you, you are in their minds. But haters only hate the things that they can’t get and the people they can’t be. So, it is only an expression of adoration they have for you. In fact, when someone hates you, it gives a sense of motivation to achieve more in life and stand upright in front of them. Therefore, do not hate your haters"

There are so many haters (bad seeds as I call them) in this world that are so focus on other people’s lives rather on their own. It’s funny how a person that does not know you from a whole in a wall can talk about you in such a negative light.  How can people place judgement on a person just by looking at them and not getting to know them for who they really are on the inside and out?

My focus in life is my family and how I can better myself as a person. No one is perfect in this world and we all strive to do great things. As you get older in life you realize what’s important in life and what is not. And there is some people, no matter how old they are, have still not grown up as an individual. I don’t give any one a reason to hate on me, unfortunately in life you come across envious and jealous people that their only goal in life is to hate on others for no particular reason that is valid.

On  my blog, I have a number quotes that have inspired me over the years.  Life is full of ups and downs and it takes a lot of strength, courage, faith and support to get through those down periods that we all go through in life.

Either you believe in God or not, I think we are all destine for great things, but it all depends on if we have our goals set and the courage to go down that path, knowing that there will be obstacles we have to get through to get to the point where we feel we deserve and should  be at in life.

No matter which way you turn there will be haters, but once you pick out the bad seeds and surround yourself with good, positive people that are there to give you that boast of positive energy, Life then becomes full of great possibilities.

Just remember haters maybe your enemies but in reality, they are people that wish they can be you.

-AQUA Blutopia NYC