How to Develop your Own Sense Of Style
By: Aqua Blutopia
We see many different people around us. One looks plain and ordinary, although other seems to be going too far. Young people like extraordinary and extreme styles like punk, goth, hardcore.
Goths traditionally cover themselves in black no matter if it's winter or summer, they wear long leather coats, shoes with big platforms, whiten or even paint their faces, they often have piercing not just in the ears, but also in eyebrows, lips, nose and tongue, the most beloved images for them are graves, skulls, darkness and of course death.
There are a lot of groups like this. A lot of people express themselves very differently from others. Teenagers who prefer the same style establishes something similar to their own society. They visit parties and clubs where they already know the majority of visitors and where there are people with different attitude to some vital things for them like music, art, society and especially style, are not welcome. These groups usually contain some friends who refuse to meet somebody who doesn't look and think like they do.
Everything seems nice and simple while we're talking about a "society" like this. What happens when more groups exists? Fear of the ones that don't tolerate you, argues in the streets and even fights. One extreme group usually refuses to tolerate another extreme group, in spite of toleration problems in society, which both groups already have. Although skinheads are one of extremes they can't stand punks, goths and other subcultures, and being the aggressive ones they actually "take some actions" to show their intolerance.
People who express their selves through style have to face the reality that an ordinary wish of being different may become a problem. While some think that skull or grave is beautiful, others may think it's sick. Expressing yourself is always a very respectable thing. A person has to be very brave to show who he/she is through style, choosing extreme style means choosing your friends, your "society". That's the main reason why teenagers like these extreme styles although there's always a danger of being misunderstood. They may already have friends which belong to a society. And they feel safe while they know they are a part of a group. Nevertheless being different does not mean being extreme. You may want to create something only for yourself.
First of all, try to imagine what kind of style would fulfill your character, watch some fashion shows on TV or look through magazines. When you decide what you want, go through your closet and see what clothes you still want to wear and which ones you no longer need. Throw away everything you don't like. Of course after this mission you'll need something new. While making your journey to the mall try not to look at what people around you are buying, don't forget: you want your own style, not theirs. Creating is a hard process, especially if you're creating something totally different. Don't even look at things you would have bought earlier. Try to find something new, something you haven't ever thought you could wear. You don't have to buy things you don't like, but at least try something on. If you see a jacket you are dying to wear, but yesterday you saw five girls/boys wearing the same, don't even think about purchasing it! Your own style means original style, created using fashionable clothes yet not the ones you can find in every single shop.
When you have finished with the clothes, do the same with your jewelry. You don't have to throw anything away, but find something new that would fit with your new clothes. Pay attention to forms of colorsand size. Try many different details of many different styles, mix them and finally you will find something you like, and something that will be unique.
When you decide to create your own style, try to consider if it will have some influence on your social position. What consequences may it have? Will your friends or your boss be happy about your changes? Being different is good, but is it worth it to take it to the extremes?