MEN FAKE ORGASMS JUST LIKE WOMEN DO!

MEN FAKE ORGASMS JUST LIKE WOMEN DO!

By: Aqua Blutopia

  If you think women are the only ones who fake it in the bedroom, think again: Some men have faked an orgasm at some point in their sex lives.

There is no doubt that Women fake orgasm more than men do, but it’s clear that Oscar-worthy acting performances are not limited to the female gender. What’s the deal? For both men and women, faking orgasms seems to be tied to relationship troubleshooting; namely how one is perceived during and after sex.  Much has been said about women who fake their orgasms, but these days, men are emerging as the brightest stars of the “Oh-oh-oh” Awards. Men fake for the same reasons as women they’re tired, they’re feeling distant, or they don’t want to offend their partners. 

Men, who have faked it, use a combination of moaning, vocalizations, and changes in physical movements. And there could be a number of reasons behind the act.  Some do it because they feel pressure from their lovers to come, even from older women, who should know that the physics get more complicated with age.

Here are a few things for Women to Know if a man’s climax is all a sham and why?

·         To make haste with a delayed orgasm. On average, data show that men tend to take about seven minutes from penetration to climax. If a man believes he’s taking too long, he may decide it’s best to fake the orgasm and get the sexual act over with.

·         To conceal premature ejaculation. Some men pretend to have an orgasm as a front for premature ejaculation.

·         To preserve his pride. For men who lose an erection during sex or sense they won’t be able to have an orgasm, it might be easier to fake the orgasm than to talk about why it didn’t occur.

·         To please his partner. A man faking an orgasm might be worried that his partner is uncomfortable due to the length of intercourse. He might also be concerned that his partner will feel hurt if they stop sex before the orgasm.

·         To abide by the “rules.” Some couples have a certain idea about how sexual intercourse will play out. There are theories that some men can’t think of another way for sex to end other than an earth-shattering orgasm, so they end up faking it if it doesn’t happen naturally.

·         To get things over with. Occasionally, men have sex with their partner for the partner’s sake — but since they aren’t really into it, they end up faking an orgasm to resolve the situation.

A male faker’s Best Supporting Actor is a condom, which puts protective latex over the truth. But even men who go bareback can fictionalize their O’s; if a woman raises doubts, they can always say it was a small one. What’s surprising isn’t that men simulate, but that women are so clueless when they do. Used to men coming too quickly, most women can’t conceive of a guy with the opposite problem.

Some women are much more understanding of a guy who can’t get it up than a guy who can’t come. If a man can’t come, the woman usually feels that it’s an indication that she’s failed in a fundamental way.  There are a few women who can tell if a man is faking or not, especially if you are using a condom.  Mainly a full condom makes a very different noise coming off. An empty one sounds like you’re rubbing a balloon against your head.

Men feel as if they are in an unfair bind and they are expected to be sensitive to women’s-orgasm issues and they get little understanding of their own problems.  For Women, there is a certain amount of time where if a guy comes sooner than expected then women look at it as he has a problem.   Very soon after that is a line, which is when the woman says, ‘What’s wrong? What am I not doing?’ As the man, the culture of sex says not to be too quick.

Depending on the relationship, Men and women sometimes experience a role reversal at a certain age.  Where a women really wants to have sex for their own sake only. By the time a guy starts to lose interest in constant sex, the women are hornier and more into it than ever. For the guy, it may not be as thrilling to have sex for sex’s sake, which is why when men do it, they realize it’s not what they wanted.  That is when the guy fakes it because he feels it’s the only way to satisfy a woman.   But there are some guys that don’t have the presence of mind to fake it, so they might even go as far as to blame the woman as a way to cover up their own shortcoming.

No More Need for Make-Believe: How to Solve the Problem

Faking an orgasm every once in a while might not be a big deal, but if it’s happening on a regular basis, it may be time to get some help. Here are some ideas:

·         Talk to your doctor. There are a number of medical conditions that can cause delayed orgasm, premature ejaculation, or difficulty maintaining an erection. But delayed orgasm is something of a subjective measure. If it takes 10 or 20 minutes? It’s really up to the man and, of course, his partner. Bottom line: If it is taking you longer to reach orgasm than you or your partner would like, it’s okay to ask for help.

·         Talk to a therapist. Occasionally, faking orgasms is rooted in emotional issues. You might need a couples therapist or sex therapist to help you understand why you are having difficulty experiencing an authentic orgasm with your partner.

·         Masturbate. Self-stimulation is recommended to help you discover what stimulates you. Next, share this information with your partner and don’t be afraid to be open, speak your mind.

·         Cut back on alcohol or illicit drugs. Men are more likely to fake an orgasm when under the influence, likely due to the fact that substance abuse affects sexual performance.

There’s no need to feign it. Instead, get to the root of the problem — it will lead to a more satisfying sex life for both you and your partner.