Do
you get the feeling that your co-worker, family member or friend is being
insincere about the way they feel about you? Your suspicions may be correct.
Chances are he or she may be jealous of you, but how do you know?
o
1
Observe the way these
people behave around you.
o 2
For co-workers notice
how they hand you paperwork, share a workspace or tell a story about someone or
something in front of you to another person it may be in a nonchalant almost
negative sort of way. For family members notice how they tease and nit-pick
about the way you look, talk, dress, shop or spend money (they know they don't
have.) They are extra critical when they shouldn't be. They will find fault
with you about almost anything and discuss it with another family member. As
for friends, they do the same and sometimes resent when you call or come around
them. They usually find a way to stay busy if there are plans to get together.
The very idea they have to look at you or what you have bothers them, so rather
than have to deal with their feelings, they try to avoid you or get what they
can out of you.
Notice how your family,
friends and co-workers look at you when they think you aren't paying them any
attention. Usually their nice smile is quickly followed with a frown and a look
from top to bottom and back up again especially if you have a better physique
or wardrobe then they.
o 3
For co-workers pay
careful attention to the eye contact they give you while a manager is praising
you.
With all individuals,
take "I'm just kidding" jokes seriously.
o 4
For those really good
actors, find ways to compliment them and watch their reaction. Jealous people
don't handle compliments very well. They either look uncomfortable or feel
guilty because they know how they have been behaving toward you or they are
overjoyed and are ready to brag about themselves hoping that you will say
things like, "I wish I had that...I always wanted that..." When they
hear you speak like that it makes them feel like, "Wow I finally have one
up on them!"
o 5
Avoid participating in
negative discussions to get them to like you such as bad mouthing others,
buying them gifts or spending time with them. Their negativity will eventually
where off on you.
o 6
Listen to how they
explain a situation involving you. For those co-workers who are jealous, they
will often blame you even when there is no need to or tell lies.
o 7
In the workplace, look
at the way you arrange things at your desk when you first arrive, after you
come from lunch, and when you leave the office. Sometimes jealous people want
to learn more about you so they will go through your things to find flaws,
weaknesses or things they can use against you. Family and friends will do the
same if they can get to places in your home that you would consider off limits.
Be careful trusting them around your partner too! Some will befriend him or her
just so that they can make you jealous.
o 8
There are usually others
who have had bad experiences with this jealous person. Take mental notes when
someone warns you about him or her.
o 9
Stop whatever you are
doing when you hear your jealous co-worker, family member or friend behaving in
a way to discredit you, damage your reputation or cause ill feelings between
you and others. Confronting them on their jealousy in a way that makes them
feel small will alert those around them to watch out. A jealous person hates to
be exposed!
o 10
Once you have exposed
them, be prepared for backlash. Keep them away from your home and away from your
family. Alert those closest to you about anything they have done that you
consider nasty, disrespectful or outright mean! When handling issues with a
jealous co-worker, be sure to alert another party about your experience, human
resources may be able to help you with any issues that you may be facing. Worst
case scenario, request a transfer or start looking for another job.
" NEVER HATE PEOPLE WHO ARE JEALOUS OF YOU, RESPECY THEIR JEALOUSY. THEY'RE PEOPLE WHO THINK THAT YOU'RE BETTER THAN THEM. THEIR NEGATIVE REMARKS AND THEIR COMMENTS PROVE IT."
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